Open and effective communication is one of the most effectual ways to prevent child abuse. Children are more vulnerable to abuse than adults because their minds are developing and they don’t have the knowledge or skillsets that most adults have to combat potential threats. According to Your Teen Magazine, tween/teen-agers often want to talk later in the evening around bedtime. Waking up early to get ready for school, getting through the school day and all of the distractions with friends, participating in sports or after-school activities, having dinner and getting homework done are all great reasons why tween/teen-agers may not want to talk during the day.1
Some parents may be frustrated that the one time they have an opportunity to recharge and prepare for the next hectic day is the ONLY time their children want to engage in deep conversation, but it’s important to remember that they don’t have the emotional intelligence to understand how to effectively or openly communicate amidst all of the daily distraction. Once their minds begin to wind down and they start to process what is in store for the next day, they realize that some things may feel overwhelming and they need support and guidance to know how to proceed. An important reminder is that children’s willingness to talk means they trust you and this season will only last for a period of time so try to embrace the moments and enjoy the opportunities to build deeper trust with your children.
In addition to communication, the Washington State Department of Child, Youth and Families suggests the following actions you can take to prevent child abuse.2
- Discipline your children thoughtfully: Don’t discipline children when you are upset
- Examine your behavior: Emotional/mental abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse
- Educate yourself and others: Attend parent education classes and mentoring programs
- Teach children their rights: When children are taught they have the right to be safe, they are less likely to think abuse is their fault and more likely to report an offense or predator
- Support prevention programs: Family counseling and education assist in prevention
- Know what child abuse is: Physical and sexual abuse are obvious to most, but neglect (lack of providing necessities), rejection, beratement and continuous isolation are also forms of abuse
Our goal should be to invest in our children and we can do so personally by taking the time to ensure our children are safe and well-cared for, as well as holding leaders accountable for doing the same. Teachers, nurses, doctors, student aides, counselors, Sunday school teachers and all adults have an obligation to protect the innocence of every child in our lives. If you are interested in becoming a member and gaining access to our Resource Center ($10/month or $99/annually), visit https://advocatefortheinnocent.org/memberships/ to learn more.
1 – https://yourteenmag.com/family-life/communication/best-time-talking-to-teens
2 – https://www.dcyf.wa.gov/safety/prevent